On My Mat

Happy New Year to you all. I have noticed more activity on my website; people inspired as I am, to shift some things. How and what are you looking to shift this year? Or as is often the case, how are you managing the shifts that have presented themselves?

I have bought my share of planner, organizers over the years (and full disclosure, I am eagerly awaiting one now) in hopes of reining in the more chaotic and seemingly inefficient parts of myself to something more reliably productive. And at age 52, while I am not optimistic, I am curious because I still get quite a bit done even when my planners remain vacant. Can I find my way to working with my working style while maintaining space for creative flow and inspiration?

So this January I am getting on my yoga mat and and am eliminating best that I can, my internal chatter/critic. I am allowing myself to simply be a woman on a mat (literally and metaphorically) and see where that takes me.  So instead of opening Facebook, googling the interesting new resource, I am getting on my mat and being quiet. My usual approach is no longer serving me (as the saying goes: “if you always do what you have always done, you will always get what you always got”) so I am making space for something else with my fingers crossed that the something else will emerge into the quiet space I have created. And I will see where that takes me.

I invite you to do the same; make space for yourself to just be and be curious about what happens next. And let me know where it takes you.

Taking Flight

My oldest daughter started her gap year with a semester long outdoor program.  I know this is a good thing.  But the first week after she left ended with my husband saying, “you haven’t seemed very happy this week”.  Ya think?!

No I haven’t been and actually I am surprised that a happy healthy GOOD transition, one could feel bereft.  I shouldn’t be… surprised that is.

I’m a life coach and spend my time teaching and supporting clients through the range of emotions as they come to terms with what has happened in their lives including feeling seemingly opposite emotions at the same time.

So I have been coaching myself these last 10 days dipping into my resources I have learned and gathered along the way…. with some success …. and not.  One night my husband, same one mentioned above, said, “it seems like you are trying to pick a fight with me”.  Hmmm, that sounds about right.

One day I tried the gentle self care approach; delicious restorative yoga and no expectation of getting anything done that day.  Didn’t work.  My body reported clearly: heavy weight in the chest, tightness in the throat, no motivation to do anything.  I went to bed thinking, “ok if this doesn’t shift soon, I may need to check in with my therapist” (the girlfriends were already working overtime not to mention the beleaguered husband)!

Next day - a more proactive approach buoyed by a change in the weather from heat and humidity to a brighter cooler, clearer day.  I got up early and did a back bending yoga practice and planned (but did not take) a hike.  Took time for a good cry in the privacy of my home.  Body report: weight lifted, able to do tasks without pretending everything was fine (which I suck at anyway).

Life transitions can be hard, even the ones we are (supposed to be) happy about.  Acknowledging transitions and finding the right supports and strategies can go a long way in helping you ride the waves ( the fun and the scary ones) successfully.

If you are facing a transition in your life, and curious if life coaching is right for you, contact me for a free 1/2 hour consult info@sagewheeler.com!